A Letter Sender by the name - Dolores

A Letter Sender by the name - Dolores Mar 13, '10 1:37 PM
for everyone
LETTER SENDER -
Dolores R Cruz
Tuesday, 9 March, 2010, 10:46 AM
To:
"Danilo Cinco"
Dolores sent you a message.
hi danny, kamusta ka na...
nalulungkot ako ngaun. my heart breaks in tears para sa anak ko. she passed the board and just finished hve her oathtaking yesterday afternoon. alam ko sad talaga din siya. may byfriend siya since gradeschool si joshua they never met personally, chat lang and some phonecalls and emails. akala ko magiging sila sa tagal ng relationship na un. Di na ako kumontra ng malaman ko noon na dilang friends but naging mag on na sila kasi malayo naman ung guy nasa cebu and sometime nasa states. dun kasi work ng parents ng guy. nag karoon ito ng relationship with another girl and got pregnant. nalaman din ng anak ko un ang she accept it dearly. now 3years old na ang bata na si pauline. just last saturday she receive a message sa facebook from a cousin of joshua. That joshua is dead riding a motorbike with pauline. lately lang nakita ang body ni pauline sa isang hospital pero patay na rin. alam ko danny nasasaktan ang anak ko. ang layo nila sa isat isa. naiiyak din ako
kung paano ko rin siya icoconsole sa nararamdaman niya. first boyfriend niya un. tapos nawala. matagal niyang hinintay pero totally di na rin siya magkikita... paano ko ba siya icoconsole. ka rereceive lang namin ng balita about the lost of her father. ano ang nakikita mo sa future na anak ko. magiging masaya ba ang pag papamilya niya. pacencya ka na danny, nagaalala ako sa anak ko.
ok lang ba dito ako nagtanong sa page mo. thank you

Dear Dolores,

Let her cry. It is okay to grieve. The grieving process is not instinctual for us; it requires learning. It is particularly important that as adults that we don't forget to teach our young about grieving, for if a child doesn't grieve in an appropriate way for him or her, that repressed grief may surface years later, a phenomenon that sometimes happens to adults as well.
"if you do not take the time to grieve, you cannot find a future in which loss is remembered and honored without pain." They remind us that we will never forget our loss of a loved one and that we will never be the same; they also remind us that we can learn, when our own individual timetable suggests, that it may be possible to find "renewed meaning" in our lives. This renewed meaning will continue to include, "loving memories and honor for those we have lost."
The five stages of grief include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These can last for different periods of time, or we can go through all of them in one day. It would be a great comfort to let her know that her feelings were normal and that she is not alone. Grief is a part of the healing. Time heals and life goes on

Cordially,
Danny